You seem to be making yourself ‘right’ and your daughter’s dad ‘wrong’ – with her a pawn in this fight. Don’t be in league with her against himThe question My teenage daughter has been depressed for 18 months. During the past two years, I have been in …
I’m dying. Will it help my beloved husband to cope if I leave him notes?
Thank you for a really beautiful email, writes Philippa Perry. I will store your lesson away for myselfThe question I need your help. Specifically, a woman therapist’s help, in fact. Even though I’ve got a perfectly good and helpful therapist, who’s he…
My husband shows no interest in me and won’t talk about it
It’s as if you are in some sort of subconscious prison and I want you to escape, says Philippa PerryThe question I’ve been with my husband for 22 years. Ten years ago, I suffered depression. My doctor said it was nothing and dismissed me.My husband sho…
I act like a petulant child when I’m with my busy, uninterested mum
It’s all too easy to return to the roles we used to inhabit, but try and see the situation from your mother’s point of viewThe question I am a 43-year-old woman. I have a happy marriage and amazing kids. During lockdown my 76-year-old mother, who is a …
How can I win round my frosty future mother-in-law?
Look at her actions in a positive light and swap the small talk for more meaningful conversationThe question I’m due to marry later this year and would like advice regarding my mother-in-law to be. My relationship with her tends to be strained. She los…
My brother has two new children – and it’s making me sad
When you want to be a parent and can’t, this is a loss to be mourned, says Philippa PerryThe question I’m a 48-year-old woman in a loving relationship. I don’t have any children. I have two brothers – my younger one has four children with his partner. …
I secretly hate sex and now fear I will lose my girlfriend
You don’t have to be sexual to feel love, but you do have to be openThe question I’m a guy in my mid-20s who also happens to be asexual. And no, I am not gay. I just can’t feel much, physically. I don’t see it as a problem, but people jump to conclusio…