Joe, 32, and Beth, 31, met in 2014 after a message she was sending to one of her friends went astray. They now live together in Wiltshire with their puppy, HansWhen Joe was at university in 2010, his housemate went through a phase of logging into his F…
The relationship sabotage scale: quantifying why we undermine ourselves in love
Developed over the course of five studies, the relationship sabotage scale is designed to give analytical rigour to a term more common in pop cultureDo you feel constantly criticised by your partner? Do you sometimes check their social media profiles? …
Blind date: ‘I thought she might ditch me for the waiter’
Lottie, 26, influencer marketing manager, meets Amber, 30, corporate events managerLottie on AmberWhat were you hoping for?A civilised evening, lots of paneer, and for my date not to be someone I’ve previously ghosted on dating apps. Continue reading…
“This is perfect”
The Joy of Parallel Play… for adults “When I think back on some of the happiest moments of my life, there’s often an element of parallel play involved. Being on the lawn with my friends at summer camp, our Crazy Creek chairs in a circle, listening to…
My libido is highly unreliable. Will I ever be able to satisfy a partner?
My sexual desire comes in peaks and valleys, but these days the peaks are fewer and further between. Do I need medical help?I’m a 35-year-old gay man. I’ve always felt as though my sexual cycles may be different to everyone else’s. Sexual desire comes …
How we met: ‘It was love at first sight – for me’
Frances, 70, and Rien, 68, met on a European exchange visit in 1972. Having brought up their family in England, they now live in the Dordogne, FranceWhen Frances finished school, she took a college course in cartography, the study of maps. By May 1972,…
You be the judge: is it ever OK to put eggshells back in the box?
In our new column, we air both sides of a domestic disagreement – and ask you to deliver a verdictHave a disagreement you’d like settled? Or want to be part of our jury? Click here Continue reading…
Blind date: ‘The screaming babies on the next table weren’t exactly mood-matching’
Philip, 29, legal assistant, meets Tom, 30, assistant talent agentPhilip on Tom Continue reading…
Pause and calm down, not pause and reload.
The Secret To a Fight-Free Relationship. “Conventional wisdom says that venting is cathartic and that we should never go to bed angry. But couples who save disagreements for scheduled meetings show the benefits of a more patient approach to conflict.” …
I am about to get married – but just tried to kiss a colleague. Should I tell my fiance?
I feel caught between two wonderful men and know I’ve behaved badly. The security I have with my partner is great – but I worry I’ll regret not pursuing this other manI have been with my partner for more than a decade and we are due to get married next…